You just can't get what you want

The true relationship between Lily Bart and Mrs. Peniston, as well as Mrs. Peniston's true character become evident as Lily asks Mrs. Peniston for help in order to repay her gambling debt. Lily, shamefully, confesses to Mrs. Peniston that she has incurred gambling debts. Mrs. Peniston considers Lily's acts "horrors" (181), and is further enraged that Lily played cards on a Sunday. Ultimately, Lily refuses to give Lily money because she does not want to "do anything to give the impression that I countenance your behaviour. If you really owe your dress-maker; I will settle with her." (182). Mrs. Peniston's refusal to pay Lily's debt is like your parents refusing to give you an allowance at college. While they won't give you money to go out during the weekend, they have no problem helping with books fees and meal plans, things that are necessary and that they feel like they will have to buy themselves despite your efforts to help out. The situation Lily faces with her parents is similar to the situation many college students face with they parents.